It’s Ok to Hate Your Life

Posted: February 24, 2011 in Uncategorized
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No, this post is not to encourage a suicidal Christian to just, “Go on and be with the Lord.” Rather, it is to explain the very root of unhappiness and grief, with the goal of giving you a fresh perspective on your life. Revelation chapter 12 talks about Satan being cast out of heaven, and goes on to say in verse 11: “and they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death.” The love of “self” causes a multitude of problems on our lives. You could even say that self-centeredness is the root of all unhappiness. I have found that all discontent disappears when “self” disappears. Here is an illustration: picture a dead guy in a coffin. Now imagine someone walking up to him and giving him a verbal beat down; pointing out all his flaws, shortcomings, mistakes, and just plain insulting him. What would be the effect on the man? Nothing – he’s dead. Now imagine the opposite approach; verbal praise, exaltation , lauding all his accomplishments and victories. Again, what would be the effect on the man? Nothing – he’s dead. It is impossible to offend/hurt a dead man. 2Tim 2:11 “This is a faithful saying: for if we died with Him, we shall also live with Him.” Have you been born again? If so, you have been crucified with Christ, and it is no longer you who live, but Christ who lives in you; and the life you now live should be by faith in the Son of God (see Gal2:20).  

The more you realize that you have died with Christ, and that your life is not your own; but you were bought with a price, the happier you will be. For the most part, people only grieve or hurt when “self” is being deprived from something it wants. Lets examine what goes on at the funeral of a believer. Are the people really mourning the death of the person (knowing that they are in heaven) or are they mourning how it will affect themselves – how the death affects them. I’m not saying there’s not a time to mourn, but are we really crying for the person that’s dancing on the streets of gold? It is also an attitude of self-preservation that causes us to doubt the promises of God –  such as when we seek first the Kingdom… all these things will be added unto us. So we throw our “selves” into the equation and mess up what God had been orchestrating behind the scenes. If we really believed God would supply all of our need according to His riches and glory, would we need to self-promote and self-seek, or manipulate people to scratch and claw our way to the top?

Believe me, above all, “self” wants to be in control of your life. Many frustrations in life come from us trying to be our own god. The world will tell you,”Be the god of your own life – it’s your life, you can do it!” Can we? Is that why this nation is hooked on antidepressants, sleeping pills, alcohol, and other drugs. In fact, antidepressants  have become the most widely prescribed class of drugs in the U.S.! Bravo to all the self-sufficient people who see us Christians as having to use our “Jesus crutch.” While the world may call it weakness, true surrender to God is actually an act of great power. There is beauty in total surrender, and freedom in submission. When you can honestly say like Paul, “My life is not my own,” and rejoice in the fact that you have placed it in the hands of your loving Father – oh happy day! You see, we were never designed for self-rule. That is a yoke we were never meant to bear.

The Answer lies at the beginning. Adam and Eve started out God-conscious, to the point that they “considered not their own nakedness.” Their focus was right where it needed to be: on God. However, after the fall, their focus shifted onto themselves as they became self-conscious and ultimately man became sin-conscious. It is this sin-consciousness that will have you devote all of your attention to your faults and failures, and put up false barriers of unworthiness that keep your focus off of God. In order to shift your focus back on God, you must believe in the finished work of Jesus, meaning you are completely righteous by you faith in Him. Being conscious of your righteousness instead of your sins (which have already been paid for) will automatically free you up to keep your focus on Jesus – the Author and Finisher of our faith. Finally, we need to esteem others better than ourselves (see Phil2:3).  Love for another person will always overcome “self”. Self-sacrifice is considered our reasonable service in Rom 12:1. Remember, God knows what will bring us true peace, fulfillment, and happiness. “But none of these things move me; nor do I count my live dear to myself, so that I may finish my race with joy, and the ministry which I have received from the Lord Jesus, to testify to the gospel of the grace of God”(Acts 20:24). Get your “self” out of the way, and step into all that God has for you each and every day.


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